Monday, January 5, 2009

A Question for You

What are you afraid of? I'm not talking spiders, snakes, scary movies, etc. I mean life stuff. I don't want to give examples because I don't want to influence the comments. So let's get a discussion going about the really scary things. And how to overcome those fears.

I have a reason for asking, so don't let me down.

Okay, folks, there's a question posed to Clayton in the comments that is open to everyone. Let's hear YOUR opinion.

14 comments:

The Borders said...

I am afraid of being alone. Physically by myself. It has been this way since 6th grade. I use to not be able to go to the mailbox alone, but that has long passed. However, (when I was still at home) I wouldn't ever go to a store alone. Kelly ALWAYS got drug/dragged? along. I'm interested in what the reason is in this post! Maybe I'll think of more later.

The Borders said...

Now I have Charles with me everywhere! Also, if Charlie is working nights, I stay up really late because I am afraid to go to sleep alone. I have never lived alone. Just straight from home life with mom/dad/4 sisters to married life when you are always either at work with people or at home together. Oh yeah, I know Lauren's fear...but I think she'll post it. But, I am not afraid of that, but along those same lines, I am sometimes afraid that someone is going to rob me...like I am always watching my purse in the basket at the store and watching my back in the parking lot. But I do feel safe at home since we have an alarm...just the robbing in public.

The Borders said...

Umm...it's me again. After reviewing your post, I noticed you said something about overcomming the fears. My solution to the robbing is carrying pepper spray and a big stick on my keychain. I don't know what the stick is called, but they gave it to me at a self defense class. So, since I am on a roll, I may as well write more. I think a lot of people are afraid of dying. I haven't ever been scared of this until this past summer when I actually could have lost my life...and very seriously almost did if it hadn't been for one thing. In that moment, I was thinking and saying, "I just don't want to die." I don't think I was actually afraid of dying, itself, just that I didn't want to leave my family behind. So I'm not sure about that fear, because it isn't like I constantly think of that happening.

Lee said...

I am terrified that one of my sons is going to stop breathing during the night. It was bad when the first kid was born, but not so bad with the second. The only thing that keeps this fear from waking me hourly, is knowing that the Lord won't let something happen to me that I'm not strong enough to survive. (I think that I would probably lose myself in depression and end up hospitalized or something) It's my testimony of that as well as knowing that I'll have them for eternity which allows me to sleep at night.

Marlena said...

My biggest fear is becoming LAZY or that someone will think, "Man, that girl is LAZY." It's a good thing to fear and a bad thing because I can never relax. When I had both kids, the same day I came home, I was up cooking, cleaning, going to the store. I've tried to "simmer" myself down, but nothing seems to work. I don't want to get to the next life and get asked why I didn't do my part when I had the means, time, and energy!! This will be an interesting thing for everyone to talk about...Good subject matter!!!

Never Enough Orange said...

being alone and failure

6L's said...

nothing that i think of often but sometimes i worry about losing my husband...i am very much afraid of losing him and sometimes can sit and cry just thinking about it. he likes to joke and say, then 'you'll have lots of money from the life insurance', haha, I DON"T THINK SO...rather have you here!!

another thing is if something ever happened to one of the boys...a twin losing a twin seems so much worse then a regular sibling for whatever reason.

my other worry is always home invasion even though we have an almarm that we set EVERY night. don't know why but i've had dreams lots of times stabbing people that break into the house????

interested to know what you're asking for. :)

Unknown said...

So, Clayton, what constitutes failure? And what do you do about that fear? It's been said that you can't fail if you don't try, so is that an option? Never try? If you try and don't get the result you wanted, is that failure? Is it a success since you tried at all?

Lauren said...

Mine is being raped, though home invasion sounds better. I know how Nicole feels, waiting up for Charlie to get home, no matter how tired she is. When Cam and I first were married, he worked the night shift. I would always stay up late with all the lights on and the tv on, constantly looking at the door, until I finally fell asleep in the wee hours of the morning. It was awful. There isn't really anything to help with that, besides saying prayers and calling people on the phone when I'm really scared. Practice has made things easier too.

And of course, I'm petrified of losing one of my kids. I know I'll be with them in the long run, but wow--it would be so hard.

6L's said...

having the courage to try something and not get the result you wanted is definitly not failure in my book. loren always says, 'i'd rather fail trying than not to have tried at all'. you never know that you will truly fail if you don't try at all!

here are a couple quotes i love:

faith makes things possible...not easy.

share faith, offer prayer, gather hope.

these are the things to help deal with the fear.

erikab said...

I am scared of letting people down.

And I think failure is giving up halfway through or giving up without a fight. If you try hard, it's never a failure. It's when you didn't give everything you had to give.

Darrell said...

I'm scared of not being able to take care of myself and having to rely on someone else. I know that comes with old age, but after working in the hospital for a short time in my life, I don't want to put my family in that situation. I'm scared of loosing Beverly, I don't know what I would do without her love and support. After Shana died I guess is when I started thinking about that. I'm scared of not ever being able to retire because so many depend on me. I guess that's enough to be scared of.

Sharon said...

I'm scared people will find out just how dumb I am. I am also afraid of people in general. If I am walking down a street and someone is coming towards me I do not breath easy until they are past me and I know they are still walking away.

holly said...

I'm scared of not being good enough and letting people down. My life has been really hard lately: I got divorced, I have not had a lot of money, stuff like that. One of the reasons that I do not ask for help is because of this fear. My biggest fear use to be being alone, but this has surpassed it.

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